A few years ago, my younger son Ogi called me and said: “I did that thing that you told me not to do!“First I’ll explain what that one thing is, and then how he has solved it finally.If you plan to climb the corporate ladder, it will also be useful to you. When Ogi got… Read More23. Do you want to be a 𝗕𝗼𝘀𝘀 or a 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱? »

I know many people who are proud that in their career they had a Dominant Boss. It is kind of experience like being in the Delta Force in the army. They say: “After him/her I know I can work with/for anyone!” My opinion is that everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity in… Read More22. How to work with a Dominant Boss? »

On Linkedin a singl mother of three wrote: “I am replaceable.. my role was eliminated 30 min ago. She was fired with words: We don’t have the head count to support your role. I’m not sure what I want to say or how I want to say it. But I am open to work and… Read More21. What has a singl mother of three done wrong after she was fired? »

“Every part, brain and body, nerve tissue and fiber, was keyed to the most exquisite pitch; and between all the parts there was a perfect equilibrium or adjustment. To sights and sounds and events which required action, he responded with lightninglike rapidity. He perceived and determined and responded in the same instant. In point of… Read More20. What do you do when you feel like this? »

This is a story about a team of software developers working on a project at a large tech company. The team was made up of people from different countries, with a diverse range of backgrounds & experience. One day a company has pointed a new manager. His name was Lav & he was from Eastern… Read More19. What to do when team doesn’t accept a new manager from (South)East Europe? »

We are talking about learned helplessness when employees have been taught to expect high pressure, stress and discomfort without seeing a way to escape such circumstances. When employees after some fight or flight reactions start to understand (or believe) that they have no control over what happens to them, they begin to think, feel, and act as if they were helpless. They stop having… Read More18. What is learned helplessness in companies? »

For decades, Coaching has been promoted as a system for “unlocking a person’s potential to maximize their own performance”. This sounds very promising. ???? However, the truth is that coaching only works for one group of clients. ???? These are the clients who, when they encounter an obstacle, react from the Adult ego state. They… Read More17. What to do when Coaching doesn’t work ? »

Coaching Drama is both a learning and transformational tool, which speaks to organizations in a language they understand. Coaching Drama is an integrative and action-based method that comprises deep coaching, psychodrama and organizational transactional analysis tools. Coaching Drama is first focused on intrapersonal relations and then on interpersonal relations because everything starts and finishes with… Read More16. Transformational tool »

Hope that you can change the past leads  you to the spider web made of missed life opportunities!!!More about Coaching Drama you can find at www.CoachingDrama.com#CoachingDrama

✔️ Which part of yourself believes there is something wrong with you? ✔️ Describe the qualities of this part of yourself. ✔️ What is s/he afraid of? ✔️ What do you get out of maintaining this belief? I look forward to your comments.???????????? You can also text me❤️ More about Coaching Drama you can find… Read More14. Exercise for raising self-awareness »

“Shame on you”! “Look what you have done again”! “You are good for nothing”! “You do not deserve to live”! “You are worthless”!!! These are the messages some parents send to their children when they do something which is not in accordance with their expectations or criteria. How do children react to these messages? At… Read More13. Look what you have done again! »

In life there are two mirrors. The first mirror reflects how we see ourselves, the second reflects how the other people see us.When we smile, the second mirror reflects happiness.When we are sad, angry or afraid, the second mirror reflects sadness, anger or fear.What can we conclude?Our inner and external actions lead to the environmental… Read More12. Two Mirrors »

From time to time it is desirable to test yourself and check whether you are more prone to focusing on positive or negative moments in your life, as well as to test if there is something that slows you down from attaining your goals.To do so, I am giving you one very useful exercise for… Read More11. Useful exercise for raising your self-awareness. »

Throughout our upbringing and schooling stages we start to lose our spontaneity and creativity steadily, our true self, which has resulted in a restrained view of possibilities and choices now and here. Within the perception of restricted choices and options we function in a robotic fashion with our creativity and spontaneity lying dormant. If you… Read More10. What is your main role at work: “a loser”, “a winner”, “a hard worker”, “a rebel”, “a rescuer”, “a victim”…? »

Insomnia!If you suffer from insomnia, try to stop thinking about the unsolved issues before going to bed. Instead of bad thoughts try to visualize the place where you want to be, the person you want to become or the goal you want to achieve.Focus on your breathing and the signals your body sends you while… Read More9. Insomnia »

„You are stupid“, „You are not good enough“,  „You are unwanted“, „You must be silent“, „You are not worth of love“, „You are worthless“, „You must not feel“, „You are not welcome“…  „You are the best“, „You are a hero“, „You can do it“… Inner voices are independent of our will. Depending on a message… Read More8. Voices »

“Man will become better when you show him what he is like”~ Anton Chekhov Leadership is all about who you are and how you see, feel and hear yourself. The better you know yourself, the more confidence you will have for being a leader.Great leaders want to know what is happening within themselves and how… Read More7. 3K Team Centricity – Coaching Drama »

Dear mothers, how often do you ask yourself this question? Do you feel guilty after having allocated some free time to yourself?If the answer is YES, then probably you suffer from the conviction „I have to put my family first on every occasion, otherwise I am a bad mother“!The consequence of this conviction is the… Read More6. Am I a good mother? »

The childhood convictions related to personal value:I am worthless!I am not worth of love!I am not good enough!I am guilty of!I am small!I am stupid!I am insignificant!I cannot do anything well!I must not feel…The childhood convictions related to significant others:I am a burden!I am responsible for your mood!I cannot trust you!I must always be cautious!I… Read More5. I and YOU and my Defending Mechanisms »

ProblemA boss gets furious when an employee forgets to do something he/she finds important.Common reaction The boss is convinced that the employee does not respect him/her enough and that it is the main reason why the employee does not do the delegated tasks urgently.Anatomy of this problemThe boss is not aware that the reason for… Read More4. When unpersonal becomes personal »

Have you ever worked with people who are not as good as they think and they happened to be your bosses? How have you felt about it? What have you done to change it? What is the key to their success? After having been working in corporations for years, I have noticed that most of… Read More3. What do incompetent people have in common? »

Problem An employee accepts all tasks due to the fear of saying „NO“ to the superior. Common reaction Superiors don’t see this behavior as a problem until the employee fails to achieve the goal. Then superiors undertake necessary measures such as: training, coaching, threatening or altogether. Anatomy of this problem The fear of abandonment is… Read More2. What we keep inside, feeds us! »

“My parents neglected my needs and wishes”- as a result nowadays I become frustrated (aggressive) easily when somebody forgets to do what I have asked. Such a behavior detriments my relation and communication with others. I feel worthless!“I was often criticized as a child” – as a result nowadays I cannot stand a negative feedback.… Read More1. When do managers become aggressive? »