22. How to work with a Dominant Boss?

I know many people who are proud that in their career they had a Dominant Boss. It is kind of experience like being in the Delta Force in the army. They say: “After him/her I know I can work with/for anyone!”

My opinion is that everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity in the workplace. So it’s not your responsibility to tolerate mistreatment.

Just imagine that you are a new employee. The very first day you realized that you could not work under tyrannic boss Sara. She was known for being extremely dominant in the workplace. She would often belittle and berate her employees. Despite her harsh demeanor, her employees were afraid of speaking up against her because they feared losing their jobs.

But, you have decided to confront her and to change her behavior! First I want to congratulate you for your courage, and this is the suggested strategy:

  1. Communicate assertively: Speak up for yourself and express your concerns in a calm and professional manner. This will help you assert your boundaries and make Sara aware of the situation.
  2. Document everything: Keep a record of any incidents or interactions with Sara that make you uncomfortable. This will serve as evidence if you need to escalate the situation.
  3. Set boundaries: Clearly define what you will and will not tolerate from Sara. Communicate these boundaries to Sara and stick to them.
  4. Seek support by talking to a trusted colleague or HR about your situation. They can provide you with valuable perspectives and help you develop coping strategies.
  5. Instead of focusing on the problem, which is overwhelming you, try to find solutions that will benefit both you and Sara. This will demonstrate your willingness to work together towards a common goal.
  6. If Sara is not willing to change her behavior and the situation becomes unbearable, you may need to consider other job options. Evaluate your options, and remember like in chess you are always moving the white pieces. That means you are on the move. 

Now what is in addition from Dragana using Coaching Drama:

I will enable you to get aware of the triggers that lead to inadequate reactions in distress.

In this case, with you I would use the Empty Chair Technique.

It is designed to allow you to work through interpersonal or internal conflict.

It helps you to see the situation from a different perspective and gain insight into your feelings and behaviors in distress.

It functions in the following way:

You will sit facing an empty chair. In the chair, you will picture a person with whom you are experiencing conflict. Then, you speak to the empty chair. You explain your feelings, thoughts, and understanding of the situation.

After you shared your side of things, you will move to the Sara’s chair.
Then, you respond to what you just said, from Sara’s perspective, taking on her role.

This is important for experiencing what it looks like being in other people’s shoes.

👉 See how Dragana works 👈

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